Recently, there has been much talk and animated discussion on South African social media about the seemingly ubiquitous and embedded violence within our society. Important links between the violence of South African history and the kind of violence we witness in crime in general and the brutality/misogyny of gender relations in this country, have been made. Essentially, we are a country with a deadly brutal history, spanning back 300+ years in our history. Colonialism is violent. It is an erasure of the identity of another; it is dispossession of not just the habitat but the self, the beliefs, and the…
#PODCAST: Journeying Through Forgiveness
/ 25 September, 2019We’re back with another podcast episode! We know these were quite popular last time, and we appreciate you guys for your feedback, support and encouragement of them, which is why we decided to bring them back and more of them this time. So, you can catch us on the airwaves (look at me trying to make us sound fancy) once a month from now on. YAY! To begin, we thought we’d look at one of the most challenging but also raw posts written on the blog this year. A blog written by Gugu on forgiveness/unforgiveness. If you’d like a bit…
Set Up For A Miracle
/ 18 September, 2019I know I’m not speaking for myself in saying what I’m about to say next, but I will, just for the sake of not putting words in peoples mouths, so here goes: I am and have been waiting for a miracle, for God to move heaven and earth in this one particular situation I’m facing. Now that you’re all like “YES! Me too!” — with your permission I will now speak for us all, because I truly feel like a lot of us today are in the same boat; you know that boat that Jesus and His disciples were in…
BOUNCING BACK
/ 4 September, 2019Setbacks, obstacles and difficult (or ‘tricky’) situations are a part of life. Curveballs are always around the corner. If things have been smooth-sailing for a while, you can bet that there’s something around the corner coming to just add some unwanted “excitement” to your life. That’s one of the defining characteristics of life. However, as humans, we can never accept or get used to this. We are taken aback, shell-shocked and deeply disappointed when our curveballs reach us. It’s like we’re new to this life thing and we feel greatly offended that life would allow such things to be our…
OVER-THINKERS ANONYMOUS
/ 4 July, 2019Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimised by over-thinking? Yup, same. In fact, as I write this I have just pulled myself out of my own personal mind gym where I was swinging back and forth on the monkey bars with thoughts that are in all honesty not even close to real and even more so, highly unlikely. And even though I know that, or at least have now told myself that, I still couldn’t quite help myself. I woke up with a nagging thought poking at my mind, and before I knew it, I was having an argument…
LOVING SELF TO LOVE OTHERS
/ 26 June, 2019So the past week, I was reflecting on how much emotional and mental stretching I have experienced in the last year. And it’s funny cos late last year, I had said the same thing about how far I thought I had come, LOL. And I guess that’s the thing with growth: it’s constant. Some of the lessons I learnt last year, I recorded in Loving Me, What I’ve Learnt in 2018… and Surrendering Doesn’t Always Mean Defeat. It’s funny because the lessons captured in each of those posts are kind of a “set up” or building blocks of sorts to…
ANSWER ME THIS
/ 19 June, 2019I’m sure by now those of you who keep up with our blog know us for one thing: being deep, and we love it — we love that this is a space we can do that; a space we can pour out on and ponder life many issues on, and at the same time do a lot of growing and learning when it comes to certain things. I know for one, my topics lately have been those I have learnt through and those I have needed to learn something from because every issue has been one I struggle with in…
ALL THE SINGLE LADIES!
/ 12 June, 2019Can we talk about how hard dating is in this day and age? I rue the day that everything shifted from offline and was unanticipatedly placed online, via mobile devices, social media platforms and now, matchmaking apps and websites. Like, why? Why was this done? And why weren’t we asked whether we wanted to tag along on the whole revolution of change. Fundamental changes to how we meet, interact and develop affinities! Mxxxm! I’m not happy. The intricacies and (unnecessary) details of my personal situation notwithstanding, I am here to say that the new way of doing things sucks. Look,…
SECOND CHANCES
/ 5 June, 2019I actually need your help on this one. Where do we stand with the idea of second chances? It doesn’t really matter where the second chance is applied; be it relationships, experiences or even when it comes to offering yourself one; do you lean to or do you lean against? Personally, I don’t know. Experience has taught me that when it comes to second chances, I should not be a fan. That seeing the best in people and giving them the benefit of the doubt is not always the smartest decision, that when they say “when a person shows you…
MAN, OH MAN!
/ 31 May, 2019So I recently have had a few situations in which I felt that a man was demanding to be right, heard or given audience simply because he was a man. I haven’t had those encounters in a while…or I have just become oblivious to them. Of the two, the latter is probably (sadly) more likely. I can’t tell you how this kind of attitude and entitlement riles me up. I mean, I literally wanna burst. And scream and shout. Really, I do. It is definitely, definitely one of my pet peeves. In addition to having a short fuse (admittedly), I…