The fracturing of a female friendship is perhaps one of the more painful events that one can go through. As Lulu and I explored this aspect/occurrence in friendships, I was quite struck by how nebulous the answer for WHY fractured females friendships are so painful is. Why does it suck so much when there is conflict in your friendships? I will not posit an answer here, and I think the answer is perhaps multiple reasons, but I will invite you to ponder upon it and please share your thought with us in the comments. I think a large chunk of…
WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?
/ 12 Nov, 2021What Makes a Good Friend? I posed this question to Lulu as a foundational aspect of our conversation on friendship, the next frontier in our series exploring relationships, LOL! We both agreed that a good friend is honest and reliable (see Prov. 18:24 and Prov. 27:9)…that is, they will love you in truth even when/if that truth is a bittersweet one. They will tell you difficult truths and stand up for you when you shortchange or endanger yourself. Ultimately, it is your life, and a good friend can only go so far in being that, but he/she will always lead…
MARRIAGE: CHOOSING WITH WISDOM, PT. II
/ 20 Oct, 2021I want to start this week’s instalment by providing a recap of the pre-marital nuggets of wisdom that I took away from Part I of my conversation with Rita. Pressure: we may receive pressure from family, friends or society. This is almost ALWAYS a recipe for making a rushed, unwise decision in choosing a partner. Sometimes, even though they mean well, even parents can get it wrong. Lack of peace within yourself: any reason that makes your heart unsettled is a prodding of the Holy Spirit to pause, stop & reassess. You may not be able to fully articulate why…
MARRIAGE: CHOOSING WITH WISDOM, PT. I
/ 13 Oct, 2021Hey Logosophical Fam! It’s your girl miss g and I am here to present to you our latest podcast series, loosely titled ‘Relationships’. It’s borne out of a conviction I had in 2020 that I just well…took forever to act upon. Y’all, the pandemic was doing its thing and ensuring one’s mental and emotional health sometimes meant doing the least. So please have mercy, LOL. The idea that was placed in my mind and spirit centred around examining the male-female relationship from a biblical, born again and Holy Spirit informed perspective. I am glad to say that in 2021, there…
DIFFICULTY DOES NOT MEAN IMPOSSIBILITY
/ 17 Feb, 2021In a short but blunt way, this life can kind of suck. Sorry, but it does. I remember the 31st of Dec 2020 like it was yesterday, I just had this deep sense inside of me that this year would be great one, cause let’s not lie, 2020 was the pits, so in some weird way I just thought that this was the year that that all changes. I felt such joy and peace about it — in fact my exact words to a friend not so long ago were I felt complete peace about where I was and complete…
VLOG: WAITING…TO WAIT
/ 30 Nov, 2020So, the year 2020 continues in its oddness and general sense of bizarreness. It’s a really weird one because some things have definitely moved, morphed and materialised on both a personal and universal level; yet, it seems (or feels) like other things haven’t moved. Or have they? LOL. I don’t know! And this is the ‘oddness’ I am referring to…it’s like, the world was shaken (global pandemic), came to a standstill (worldwide lockdowns and near-complete halt of all economic activity), then experienced notable political and social upheaval (the US Elections, racial justice movements) and natural and man-made disasters, all of…
LOVE LIKE YOU’VE NEVER BEEN HURT
/ 22 Jul, 2020Love like you’ve never been hurt! Ha! This is one of those statements that sounds so super annoying and denialist. Like, if you’ve ever been hurt, you’ll agree that the immediate and visceral reaction to this statement is the deepest kind of eye roll you can execute. Like, please. Eye roll, eye roll, eye roll…then add a cutting side eye. What witchcraft is this? Why is my pain and my experience being minimized? Momma didn’t raise no fool. I get hurt, I become a lesser/meaner/worser version of myself. I stop giving people the benefit of the doubt, I shut down…
VLOG: LOCKDOWN CHRONICLES
/ 17 Jun, 2020*dusts off cobwebs* is this thing on? Hi guys, so I know it’s literally been 105 days since we were last on here, and just writing the number 105 makes me even feel shy.. like I can’t believe it’s been that long, yikes! But I guess with the never ending plot twists that 2020 keeps giving us, the hiatus (though abrupt, sorry about that) was bound to happen, because (I’ll speak for myself) for a while there, I was unable to can. The only thing that made sense was sleep, and so sleeping I did! But I guess if I’m…
Alexa, Play “In Over My Head”
/ 4 Mar, 2020I was going to begin this blog with a cliche statement which goes a little something like, “I can’t believe it’s already March, where has all the time gone”… and while it is a fitting statement, because.. I honestly cannot comprehend the fact that its already March… the truth is, I realise why for the most part we always think time is never on our side. Maybe I’m mistaken and an invisible speed x2 button has been pressed on life and everything we are used to experiencing is happening at double the speed (which would honestly make sense… in a…
A CHANGE IS COMING…
/ 19 Feb, 2020LOGOSOPHICAL family!!! I am back! Yes! And it feels good. It is a blessing for me to write for this blog. As I have mentioned before, it is a part of my soul work. It causes me to deeply introspect and provides a platform for reflection about the days of my life, haha. My last blog was a reflection of the year – the key takeaway of 2019. And in that piece, I spoke about how God had started to make me understand that where I was, was not because He had forgotten me or that I was unloved, off-course…