THINGS THAT MADE ME HAPPY IN 2018

Gugu / 19 Dec, 2018

You know it’s been a long year when you have absolutely no idea what to write about for Logosophical anymore. I mean, the fatigue and lack of ideas set in around September tbh. Lulu and I started mentioning to each other how we were both ‘written-out’, and I’d desperately text her asking for ideas, to which she’d respond about her own blankness and seeming empty ‘tank’. Despite that, I must say that personally, I am proud of the posts I’ve written even in that time. They’ve been reflective of the marked journey of growth I have been on in 2018.…

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SURRENDERING DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN DEFEAT

Gugu / 5 Dec, 2018

I recently watched a Red Table Talk (RTT) episode featuring Toni The Living Legend Braxton (shout-out to her sis Tamar Braxton for that moniker) where she spoke about her divorce; the process and the lessons learnt. I’ve heard Toni speak about her divorce before and she’s always said that she hated being divorced. As a lover of love, she hated the fact that her marriage hadn’t worked. Her parents are divorced and had what one would call an acrimonious split (You’d have to not only listen to or read Toni relay the events of their divorce but also catch up…

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WHAT I’VE LEARNT IN 2018…

Gugu / 21 Nov, 2018

LESSON 1 In the main, in 2018, I have been on a course that has been designed to teach me patience. In the process, I have seen God actively and directly move in my circumstances. I have prayed for/about “small” things and asked God to intervene and He has done so, proving that He is with me and that I am on the right path, even though I’m yet to receive the things I consider to be the ‘prize’. Sometimes it’s hard to hold on in a seeming vacuum or place of darkness and unknowing and so these small answered…

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LOVING ME

Gugu / 7 Nov, 2018

I never imagined that loving myself would be such a difficult task. I thought that once I had achieved a certain level of self-appreciation and self-regard, it would be easy to practise that. Well…no. I lie. Somehow, I always suspected that a particular level of self-love required or went hand in hand with a particular degree of self-denial. How? I had always listened keenly to stories of women that had left no-good or just simply not-good-enough boyfriends/lovers because it fascinated me that someone could leave or walk away from someone that they were VERY MUCH/CLEARLY in love with JUST BECAUSE…

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IN HONOUR…

Gugu / 26 Sep, 2018

Today, 26 September, would have been Mam’ Winnie Madikizela-Mandela’s 82nd birthday. And so, after recently reading her memoir, 491 Days: Prisoner Number 1323/69, Lungile and I agreed that it would be apt to post my “review” of the book today. It is a memoir consisting of letters exchanged between herself and her then also incarcerated husband, Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela, her family and friends, and legal advisors. She also kept a detailed diary of the manner in which she was treated while in prison, depicting the cruelty and downwright callousness of the collective security services of the National Party apartheid regime. …

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A.C.C.E.P.T.A.N.C.E.

Gugu / 19 Sep, 2018

By LUNGELO* *NOT HER REAL NAME At some point in my very recent past this word scared the living daylights out of me. I was in fight mode, battling the difficult and frightening circumstances that had appeared in my life without warning or invitation – and I was fighting hard. I was desperately trying to control (as much as I could) the circumstances, the responses of my loved ones and the future outcomes of these storms. I couldn’t even begin to contemplate what role (if any) acceptance would have in my life. Accept what? For the why? For the who?…

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YOU GOT ISSUES…

Gugu / 12 Sep, 2018

Can we talk about abandonment? I wonder whether there are other LOGOSOPHICAL readers that have dealt with and continue to be plagued by the effects (long after the injurious deed was or deeds were, committed) of abandonment, and by proxy, rejection. If anyone reading this has any experience with abandonment, then you’ll know that it is a deeply affective and emotionally damaging thing to experience. And it may hurt A LOT at the time, but it hurts even more months, years and lifetimes thereafter. It is the cruel gift that keeps on giving. I say lifetimes because you see, hurt…

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THIS WOMAN’S WORK…

Gugu / 8 Aug, 2018

By FUNGAI BLAKE When Gugu approached me to write a piece for Logosophical I was taken aback, honoured, excited and slightly intimidated all at the same time. My day hustle involves a lot of writing and I enjoy it but a blog piece was something I had never thought about. Here was a chance to let my creative juices flow. An opportunity to be vulnerable and to take strangers into my confidence, a chance to partake in a somewhat cathartic experience (so please bear with my self-indulgence at times). But where would I find the time? With the many hats…

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ALL THE WOMEN IN ME MATTER

Gugu / 1 Aug, 2018

By KURI MASWANGANYI In a 24 hour day, I can move from a fiery, driven and ambitious business woman to a friend, ready to take on the army of giants with a friend who is going through something, to being a sister cheering on another sister as they break the glass ceiling in their lives to achieve what they never thought they could, to being a mother who collects tears from a broken toe that faced the fierceness of the jungle gym, to being my daughter’s guidance teacher as she grapples with which subjects to choose as she seeks insight…

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BY WHOSE STANDARDS?

Gugu / 25 Jul, 2018

In a recent blog post, the theme of being absorbed by the apparently glamorous, over-the-top, winning lives of others, as presented via social media, came up in the comments section. We all struggle with these images of a seemingly well-lived life. We see people go on no-doubt expensive holidays (often not being aware of the fact that for many of these “influencers’, those are paid holidays), marry the so-called loves of their lives in extravagantly lavish settings and you wonder, “Did they have to sell they kidney for that?”, cos they look like ‘regular’ folk, or always turn up at…

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