MAN, OH MAN!

Gugu / 31 May, 2019

So I recently have had a few situations in which I felt that a man was demanding to be right, heard or given audience simply because he was a man. I haven’t had those encounters in a while…or I have just become oblivious to them. Of the two, the latter is probably (sadly) more likely. I can’t tell you how this kind of attitude and entitlement riles me up. I mean, I literally wanna burst. And scream and shout. Really, I do. It is definitely, definitely one of my pet peeves. In addition to having a short fuse (admittedly), I…

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IF NOT YOU, THEN WHO, MOM?

Gugu / 15 May, 2019

This past weekend was Mother’s Day in many parts of the world (Southern Africa, where I am, included). I know that it is a day that is marked at different times of the year in different parts of the world. Regardless, it is one of very few non-religious but set-apart days that is commemorated almost the world over. And rightly so. The value and importance of mothers cannot be overstated – these have been captured in various art forms: poetry, song, prose, and even stage and film performance. Considering the often selfless and thankless task that motherhood is and how…

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GETTING TO NEXT

Gugu / 1 May, 2019

A little over a year ago, we started this blog. Our first piece was published on 25 April 2018. Today, as you read this, it is the 1st of May 2019. I would like to say or claim that much has changed in my life in that time, but I am unsure. But it being the blog’s one year anniversary, I would like to take stock or inventory of exactly what has changed or happened because I believe that such an exercise is always important. Knowing where you’ve been, where you are and what you seek or desire for yourself…

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KEEPING THE FAITH

Gugu / 17 Apr, 2019

So in the midst of my season of disappointment, unknowing, uncertainty, feeling purposeless and forgotten by God, frustration, anger and ALL of the heavy emotional burden that comes with being in such a place, I have had to literally pull my faith up by its bootstraps to keep it alive. I am not sure whether through my weekly posts, you have gotten a sense of the depth of my sorrow and restlessness, but suffice it to say, it is rough. I cannot say it has been rough, because the struggle continues. I am in the throes of this rollercoaster ride.…

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HOW (NOT) TO FORGIVE, PT. 2

Gugu / 3 Apr, 2019

Approximately 2 months ago, I shared my issue of, experience and burden with unforgiveness. I think that the present juncture serves as the perfect time for an update! Kikikiki. Wellllllll, I think I have good news. On the whole, I have forgiven the person but maybe I am still somewhat “puzzled” by the whole debacle, LOL. Notwithstanding other spiritual aspects, what this means is that, in the main, I often find myself marveling at how THAT person could have done THAT to me. I will often imagine having a conversation (more like a diatribe because I am the only one…

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THE PRUNING GROUND

Gugu / 20 Mar, 2019

Consider it wholly joyful, my brethren, whenever you are enveloped in or encounter trials of any sort or fall into various temptations. Be assured and understand that the trial and proving of your faith bring out endurance and steadfastness and patience. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4 Moreover, let us also be full of joy now! Let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, KNOWING that pressure and…

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ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Gugu / 6 Mar, 2019

Sometimes we can be so whiny. Ok, I can be so whiny, and I will admit to and own this. I am pretty sure that I get on the nerves of my closest and dearest with the level of venting and whining I do. I am of course grateful for the opportunity to even whine; it means I am loved and surrounded by friendship and sisterhood. It isn’t something I have always done though, opening up and sharing about the true state of my inner life. As a Capricorn and someone that’s deeply private and protective of self, I was…

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IT’S TOO MUCH!

Gugu / 20 Feb, 2019

How many of us are feeling like the year has already gotten ahead of us? Listen, as I type this, it is 17 February and I already feel like I have lost all the hope and confidence I had at the beginning of the year for the great and wonderful things that were going to be for me. Yes, I am zapped, emotionally and spiritually. And if you feel like this is going to depress you, I give you permission to tap out at this point. Ok, toodles.  And if you’re still with me, then OK – let me break…

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HOW TO FORGIVE…

Gugu / 6 Feb, 2019

So…I have a confession to make. I have unforgiveness in my heart. Eeeeeeek! OK, pause: I really don’t know how I feel about how much one bares their soul with each of one’s pieces. Because I mean, hey…unforgiveness is a pretty big thing. It’s a big thing soul-wise to have so much yuck stuck (see what I did there, hahaha) in your heart. But, OK. It is what it is, LOL. Don’t judge me. So back to that unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is one of the heaviest weights we can carry. It stings. Often, it also stinks. It poisons us and it…

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LIVING MY BEST LIFE (SMILE B*TCH)

Gugu / 23 Jan, 2019

Aaaaaand we’re back!!!!! A happy, prosperous and fulfilling 2019 to you all! May peace and joy abound in your lives and may the Lord keep and provide for you in all areas. How were the holidays? I trust that there was a lot of joy, laughter, peace and togetherness for all. Holidays are synonymous with family and I do hope that all our readers were able to spend GOOD TIMES with either blood or chosen family. Thankfully, I got to do both! But more on that later. I must say that I thoroughly enjoyed my December 2018, shem! And I…

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