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NAVIGATING FRIENDSHIPS

Gugu / 19 Nov, 2021

The fracturing of a female friendship is perhaps one of the more painful events that one can go through. As Lulu and I explored this aspect/occurrence in friendships, I was quite struck by how nebulous the answer for WHY fractured females friendships are so painful is. Why does it suck so much when there is conflict in your friendships? I will not posit an answer here, and I think the answer is perhaps multiple reasons, but I will invite you to ponder upon it and please share your thought with us in the comments. I think a large chunk of…

WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?

Gugu / 12 Nov, 2021

What Makes a Good Friend? I posed this question to Lulu as a foundational aspect of our conversation on friendship, the next frontier in our series exploring relationships, LOL! We both agreed that a good friend is honest and reliable (see Prov. 18:24 and Prov. 27:9)…that is, they will love you in truth even when/if that truth is a bittersweet one. They will tell you difficult truths and stand up for you when you shortchange or endanger yourself. Ultimately, it is your life, and a good friend can only go so far in being that, but he/she will always lead…

MARRIAGE: CHOOSING WITH WISDOM, PT. II

Gugu / 20 Oct, 2021

I want to start this week’s instalment by providing a recap of the pre-marital nuggets of wisdom that I took away from Part I of my conversation with Rita. Pressure: we may receive pressure from family, friends or society. This is almost ALWAYS a recipe for making a rushed, unwise decision in choosing a partner. Sometimes, even though they mean well, even parents can get it wrong. Lack of peace within yourself: any reason that makes your heart unsettled is a prodding of the Holy Spirit to pause, stop & reassess. You may not be able to fully articulate why…

MARRIAGE: CHOOSING WITH WISDOM, PT. I

Gugu / 13 Oct, 2021

Hey Logosophical Fam! It’s your girl miss g and I am here to present to you our latest podcast series, loosely titled ‘Relationships’. It’s borne out of a conviction I had in 2020 that I just well…took forever to act upon. Y’all, the pandemic was doing its thing and ensuring one’s mental and emotional health sometimes meant doing the least. So please have mercy, LOL. The idea that was placed in my mind and spirit centred around examining the male-female relationship from a biblical, born again and Holy Spirit informed perspective. I am glad to say that in 2021, there…

VLOG: WAITING…TO WAIT

Gugu / 30 Nov, 2020

So, the year 2020 continues in its oddness and general sense of bizarreness. It’s a really weird one because some things have definitely moved, morphed and materialised on both a personal and universal level; yet, it seems (or feels) like other things haven’t moved. Or have they? LOL. I don’t know! And this is the ‘oddness’ I am referring to…it’s like, the world was shaken (global pandemic), came to a standstill (worldwide lockdowns and near-complete halt of all economic activity), then experienced notable political and social upheaval (the US Elections, racial justice movements) and natural and man-made disasters, all of…

LOVE LIKE YOU’VE NEVER BEEN HURT

Gugu / 22 Jul, 2020

Love like you’ve never been hurt! Ha! This is one of those statements that sounds so super annoying and denialist. Like, if you’ve ever been hurt, you’ll agree that the immediate and visceral reaction to this statement is the deepest kind of eye roll you can execute. Like, please. Eye roll, eye roll, eye roll…then add a cutting side eye. What witchcraft is this? Why is my pain and my experience being minimized? Momma didn’t raise no fool. I get hurt, I become a lesser/meaner/worser version of myself. I stop giving people the benefit of the doubt, I shut down…

A CHANGE IS COMING…

Gugu / 19 Feb, 2020

LOGOSOPHICAL family!!! I am back! Yes! And it feels good. It is a blessing for me to write for this blog. As I have mentioned before, it is a part of my soul work. It causes me to deeply introspect and provides a platform for reflection about the days of my life, haha. My last blog was a reflection of the year – the key takeaway of 2019. And in that piece, I spoke about how God had started to make me understand that where I was, was not because He had forgotten me or that I was unloved, off-course…

EVERYTHING IN GOD’S TIME

Gugu / 19 Dec, 2019

To say that 2019 has been A LOT would be an understatement. LOL. As I type this, I am quite aware of the ‘irony’ (for lack of a better word) that’s contained in this statement. Why do I say this? Well, it’s because I believe that this was my exact sentiment about 2018 at round about this time of the year then. Really, it was A LOT. If I recall, I was emotionally drained and defeated; I was feeling very, very stuck and uninspired, and just not sure what the big next/next big for my life should look like. Despite…

SPARE THE ROD?

Gugu / 2 Oct, 2019

Recently, there has been much talk and animated discussion on South African social media about the seemingly ubiquitous and embedded violence within our society. Important links between the violence of South African history and the kind of violence we witness in crime in general and the brutality/misogyny of gender relations in this country, have been made. Essentially, we are a country with a deadly brutal history, spanning back 300+ years in our history. Colonialism is violent. It is an erasure of the identity of another; it is dispossession of not just the habitat but the self, the beliefs, and the…

BOUNCING BACK

Gugu / 4 Sep, 2019

Setbacks, obstacles and difficult (or ‘tricky’) situations are a part of life. Curveballs are always around the corner. If things have been smooth-sailing for a while, you can bet that there’s something around the corner coming to just add some unwanted “excitement” to your life. That’s one of the defining characteristics of life. However, as humans, we can never accept or get used to this. We are taken aback, shell-shocked and deeply disappointed when our curveballs reach us. It’s like we’re new to this life thing and we feel greatly offended that life would allow such things to be our…